Prepare for the arrival of your twins
If you are reading this blog post, i am guessing you found out you are having twins and are trying to prepare for their arrival. Having twins is such an exciting time for most people. There is so much to prepare for compared to a singleton pregnancy so its best to find the right resources and tips to help you get ready. I remember when we found out we were having twins, i was super shocked, but after the initial shock wore off, it was time to join twin groups and find all the resources i could find. From joining facebook twin groups, to hitting up all the people i knew that had twins, searching for blogs about twin mom life, the list goes on. You definitely need to be prepared because its different from a singleton, by the way you will use the word “singleton” a lot.
Join twin support groups/ read up on twins
There are so many twin and multiples resources and groups on facebook so join them. Learn from other experienced people or join others as they figure it out together. Get books like When You’re Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads. These help give you more educated advice. The more you learn and talk with people, the better you feel and the more prepared you are.
Meal prep ahead of delivery
I didn’t do this unfortunately cause I was already so exhausted and barely cooking. However we did order some food for the first two weeks after delivery. You will most likely not have time to cook the first few days or even weeks of having your babies. Meal prepping in advance will help you unless if like me, you have wonderful family and friends around that constantly bring food for you.
Set up nursery
You definitely want to do this in advance especially if your baby will be sleeping in there immediately. We didn’t have our set up for the twins since their room is currently being used by grandparents to help out. We however had their closets and changing area set up. Also, try to get this done by 30 weeks because one of the things to expect with twin pregnancy is that they can come earlier than expected. So being prepared as early as possible will help just in case you have to deliver early.
Try to have a schedule in place as far as the twins sleeping arrangements. Will they be sleeping with you? Or with your support? Or in their own rooms? Look up several newborn twin daily schedules to have an idea of what to follow once they get here. Discuss with your significant other or support about who will be doing overnight shifts? Or splitting them up? Time off work etc.
One thing everyone told me and i will tell every soon to be twin parent is to put them on the same schedule. I cannot stress it enough, the rule about not waking a sleeping baby does not apply to multiples. You do not want to wake up to feed one baby and just as you are enjoying your sleep, the second one wakes up lol. Once it is feeding time, wake both up. Try to get their schedules synced together to make life a bit easier for you.
Figure out who is available to help you out. With twins you need all the help you can get. Do not be afraid to call people and ask when they are available to help you. I used to be timid to ask but now I ask people and try to get exact days and time so I can have a support schedule available. You can also pay for nannies. It’s easy to think you can do it all on your own which you probably can but you will lose your mind.
Prepare siblings or pets
Prepare older siblings or pets for the arrival of your babies. Find creative ways to get them excited about the new arrivals and how to be gentle with them. Especially with twins, you may need to find ways to make sure your older sibling does not feel left out since everyone gets fascinated by twins.
Have formula plan
Whether or not you plan on using formula, it is best to have some on hand just in case. You may plan to exclusively breastfeed and then your baby doesn’t latch, not gaining weight or milk is not coming out so stay prepared. You will hate to be running around the first week of their life trying to find formula.
Who doesn’t love baby registries? Set those up and send it to your loved ones so they can purchase in preparation for your babies. There is so much to buy with twins, the earlier you start the better. You do not need two of everything, and also do not need to get everything all at once. Ask friends for some items and feel free to accept hand me downs if you need to.
Talk with your doctor about labor and delivery
Begin to speak with your doctor about your options as far as your labor and delivery especially if you are leaning towards a particular delivery method. Find out how long they think you will carry your babies for. I had DI-DI twins and they are the most low risk twins so i could carry them up to 38weeks. Most doctors do not let twins go past 38 weeks anyway. But if you have other types of twins like MoMo or MoDI, you may deliver before 38 weeks due to safety reasons. Ask your doctor what symptoms to watch out for, when to call the doctor, what hospital you will be delivering at and other important questions.
Especially with twins and if you already have another child, you will need to think about vehicle size. For us we had to get specific slim car seats to fit three across in our SUV. We have a Honda CR-V and followed the car seat lady guide for specific car seats. We got one Diono Radian 3RXT for our toddler and two Chicco KeyFit 30 Zip Infant Car Seat for the babies. Although we may need to get another SUV seeing as hubby’s sedan won’t work for three across comfortably. I still refuse to buy a minivan lol.
How are you going to afford them
This is a big question and I feel like you can never be completely ready but at least think about it and discuss your options. Especially when it comes to daycare costs.
Childcare I feel is the biggest cost with twins. Is someone going to stop working to stay home with them? Or a nanny or daycare or a support person to watch them? Discuss your options because having twins can get very expensive quickly.
Do not buy two of everything
You need two of several things however do not go buying two of everything. If you have not started your twin registry, check out my list of must have baby products for your twins first year. These are products i have found super useful so far and i think they are important to add to your list.
What we got two of
We definitely did not get two of everything, but there are a few things you need two of:
For the swings, rockers, bouncers, we just got one of each and they can alternate because one twin may like one thing and the other may not. However if you find they both love one particular thing, you can choose to get a second one.
Crib (although some people have their babies share a crib for a few months)
I think that is all we got two of lol, as you can see, you can make do with one of several high priced things.
In conclusion, read as much as you can to prepare for the arrival of your twins. Life is about to get really crazy but exciting at the same time.