Realities of being a twin mom
Have you ever wondered what it is like to be a twin mom? If you have always wanted twins, then you probably have. I wrote a post some weeks ago about things I wish I knew before having twins and its definitely a huge list lol. Having twins is one of those things you are never quite prepared enough for. No matter how excited or sad you were when you found out you were having twins, raising twins comes with its own unique challenges. I decided to put together a list of some things so far that show what it is like to be a twin mom. Also, check out this website for a bunch of twin resources and tips.
Your house is like a daycare
Your house looks like a daycare center with all the swings, diapers and wipes, rockers etc for both babies. Sometimes I even feel like I run a mini daycare when I have to use the baby carrier to wear both of them or when they are both screaming their heads out.
Once babies fall asleep, that means you will be mad if your phone rings when you just put them to sleep. I usually will not even pick up any calls when they are sleeping unless it’s urgent. Hence why most times I have my phone on silent.
Your stroller is your best friend
We take our joovy stroller with us everywhere, it’s permanently in the truck of my car. You never know when you will need it especially if you are going out alone. Even when you have help, unlike with one baby where you can take turns carrying then when tired, with two, you don’t have that luxury. Although having to use a stroller probably makes moving a little inconvenient since you have to take the elevator no matter how slow it is.
You are sometimes jealous of Singleton moms
Especially when they complain about how hard it is. Sorry Mamas you rock but we can’t help but be jealous or slightly roll our eyes hearing you complain. Also, most things are built for singletons for instance mommy and me classes are not really convenient for one mom and two babies. Going out to restaurants or places are hard enough with one baby, but nearly impossible with two babies.
You go through a ton of diapers and wipes
We use about 20 diapers and a ton of wipes daily. I feel like I’m constantly restocking our changing table with supplies lol
You are a celebrity
Yes even Beyonce ain’t got nothing on you when you go out. I actually enjoy the celebrity status lol. The stares, questions, comments etc never end. Everyone is fascinated with twins and want to have a look. I can hardly make it to the checkout line without having someone stop me to ask questions or make comments. This is especially the case if they have twins or are twins themselves. I know I will most likely be this way as well.
Watching twins personalities interchange
I have not gotten to see much of this but I definitely look forward to having two babies to watch their personalities and experiencing milestones twice
Schedules are important
You try your best to stick to your babies schedules because falling off can be very frustrating. We started sleep training with our twins early compared to our singleton because it was not feasible winging it. Also the quote of never wake a sleeping baby does not apply to twins. If one is awake to eat, you wake the other up as well just to avoid being woken up again. I prefer to breastfeed both babies at the same time to save myself some time.
You use the word Singleton a lot
Yep, I have probably used it several times in this blog post already.
You get a free pass many times
Raising twins is tough which everyone knows so most people understand when you say you can’t make it to events or have to leave early or leave late.
You take all the help
I used to be scared to ask for help but now I actually ask people specific days and times and write it down lol. When people ask about food I am not ashamed to tell them what food I want them to bring lol. It’s basically all hands on deck with twins.
Hangouts are harder
I sometimes feel guilty when I cannot hang out due to no one to watch the twins or the logistics involved in caring for them especially since they are still young.
You have an immediate bond with other twin parents
The moment you bump into other twin parents you bond immediately. I took my toddler swimming one day and overheard the man say the back talking about his two month old twins, I immediately interrupted him to tell him I just had twins too. Plus you reach out to each other and sort of lean on each other cause only you guys know what it’s really like having twins. It is like a sisterhood where we all look out for each other because we understand what it takes.
You have twice the smiles and love
And you would never trade this for anything. You have two babies to smile back at you and love on you. From one twin mom to another, you got this. There will be days and weeks and months you would not know how you made it, but you can do it, The last 4 months have been a blur but I have loved every moment of it.
Most things take double the time
You gotta bath two babies, change diapers for two babies, Leaving the house takes longer, even monthly photoshoots take longer lol. If you have not checked out my blog post on diaper essentials for twins, what are you waiting for?
You were made for this
When I get stressed out, I remember I was created specially with the strength for this. Not everyone gets to have twins so the fact that God chose you means he has specially equipped you for it. No matter how stressful being a twin mommy gets, it is the most amazing privilege.