I did the 3 days potty training method with my daughter this past weekend. I must say, it was quite an experience and at the beginning, i was wondering what i got myself into. If you have not heard about the 3-day potty training method, you need to find out about it. My daughter is currently 2 years and 6 months old so i figured it was a perfect time to start. Her daycare usually takes them to the potty and so do i while she is home. However, she never actually went, she just sat on it lol. When i initially heard about this potty training method, i did not believe it was actually possible. But i decided to look more into it and find out more potty training tips to help me out. The great news is, it was successful, she got to class the next day and had no accidents at all. It has been 3 days after and still no accidents. I am so proud of her. So here we go, what to expect from the 3-day potty training in terms of our role as mothers.
What the 3 day Potty Training taught me about Motherhood
First, how does the 3-day potty training work and what can you expect?
- It’s 3 full days.
- Explain to your child what is about to happen. I explained a week before, and then on the day of, we had a goodbye diaper party where we threw away her diapers.
- No going out of your house for 3 days.
- Potty visit every 15 minutes, no excuses.
- Lots and lots of water to help them go. Juice works as a laxative, so be careful with it.
- Do not have them sit there for too long if they are not peeing.
- Make a huge deal about potty successes, i gave mine treats when she was successful.
- No rewards if they pee on the floor and then make it halfway to the potty.
- No underwear, i had my daughter go butt naked the entire time except nighttime.
- Watch for signs that they want to pee or poop.
As mothers, we need a huge daily dose of patience. I mean, constant dose of it. Our children can and will press our buttons several times but we need to be able to live a lifestyle of Christ that shows patience. Potty training in 3 days taught me about patience. In the beginning, there were times i wondered how i was going to make it through the weekend. Times when i had to clean so much poop and pee from the floor countless times. Despite these, i had to be patient and understand its a learning process. I learned to pray and just ask God for strength to get up and clean the floor after her without yelling or getting angry. There were times i tried to take a quick nap and 15minutes later she will tap me out of my sleep “mommy, i need to go potty”. This happened so frequently, i eventually gave up on the naps lol.
Do you and only you
Find what works best for you and your toddler. Every child is different and as mothers, it’s our duty to see our children for their uniqueness and not compare them with each other. My daughter for whatever reason prefers the toilet rather than using her potty. We had gotten her one of those toddler steps to attach onto the toilet so its easier for her. Also, your child may not like to go totally butt naked. Mine initially did not, but eventually was okay with it.
Commitment and consistency
Motherhood is all about consistency. As a mom, in all that we do, we need to stay consistent to ensure we bring our children up the right way. This helps prevent confusion. I was able to see how committed i could be with this training. Again, after cleaning and cleaning, it’s easy to give up and call it quits to try again another time. But i chose to trust God and stick with it. You need to be consistent with it, you cannot do it and then leave it alone. Stay consistent to going frequently. One thing that helped me stay dedicated to it was remembering my role as a mother and being who God has called me to be in my daughter’s life.
Gosh, my attention span is quite small. I thought it was longer, and maybe it is but, in the case of this weekend, it was short. There were times we were trying to play games or she just wanted to play around. My attention span grew so thin and it took all i had to pretend to be very interested.
Whenever you find the secret to a toddler’s energy, please let me know so i can invest in it. Toddlers have so much energy. They wake up early in the morning super-hyper while we are still trying to wake up. We go through the day and they still have enough energy to run a marathon. Maybe its because their brains are not roaming around like ours. Another reason why having the peace of God that surpasses all human understanding is key.
During these three days, i made no plans at all. i canceled all appointments with people or shopping etc. I basically gave her my undivided attention and realized life is not that serious. Life is easier than we make it seem with all the complications and to do lists we make.
There is this devotion i was reading that was about practicing Rest. It was so timely because, in our fast-paced society, we feel the need to constantly be in motion. We make appointments and fill our calendars up, our minds are constantly racing everywhere and the only break we have is when we sleep.
Arent we all used to having long to do lists that never end. We never truly have a moment of rest where we just sit still and do nothing. But during this training, i had to learn that. Yes, i had times to myself, but they were very short as i had to take her to pee every 15 to 30minutes. So, i refused to do anything that will get me carried away. This training helped me to rest in God and spend the few free minutes i had listening to worship music or reading a few verses from my bible. I wrote a post last week about 10 apps that are helping my walk with God.
This was a huge one for me. This 3-day potty training showed me more of my role as a mother. sometimes as mothers, we get carried away with making sure everything is perfect, with work, with business and so many other things. But as mothers, we are called to raise our children. This is how i prioritize my life Wife>Mother>Ministry>Blog. I am first called to be a wife then a mother and all else follows after. My role as a mother is more important than everything after it. Sometimes, that means leaving the house dirty for a little while to spend time with your child. I was able to focus completely on her like a hen watching her kids lol. I think she loved this and got so used to it because when my husband got home, i hid for a few minutes and she started crying when she could not find me. As mothers, we need to search our hearts and lives to remove anything prioritizing itself above our roles of wives and mothers. We need to raise Godly children who will, in turn, take the gospel of Christ and run with it.
Failure is okay
As mothers, we will not always get it right. Many times we would question if we are doing things right or wrong. We will consider ourselves as failures sometimes. I remember on day 3, she peed on herself and i was disappointed. It began to feel like maybe the whole weekend did not work. But i had to call myself back to understand failure is only part of it. Just like our relationship with God, sometimes we learn lessons but we still fall back into the same sin and God does not give up on us. He pulls us to himself and helps us when we ask him. The same way, as a mother, i had to correct and keep encouraging my daughter to try again. It is important to stay positive because punishment is not allowed during this training.
There you have it, my experiences as a first-time mom Potty training. Remember, every child is different and failure is part of it. Your child may or may not get it in 3 days but that is perfectly okay. Potty training in 3 days is not a magic process. Some kids need longer to get it. In fact, some kids get nighttime trained using this method. Mine did not. I went butt naked the first night and she peed and slept in her pee, i felt so terrible. I woke up several times to take her to the potty at night but it never worked so i realized she just was not ready.
What are some lessons or tips you have for potty training your little one?